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(Aug. 13, 2020) — There are few events more emotionally traumatizing than the death of a relative. Depending on the circumstance, such matters can be shocking and unexpected or predictable and occasionally relieving. Whatever the scenario, coping with it is something that many struggle with, and understandably so. However, there are professionals who can help with grief, and a number of aspects of loss that can, over time, be dealt with yourself.
As noted in this Chicago Tribune article on loss of a loved one, denial is often the first stage of grief. As this passes, you will experience anger, bargaining, depression, and finally acceptance. It is important to remember through everything you experience, through the sadness and the fear, that acceptance is the final stage, and it will be reached eventually.
With many issues, it is the mental state you put yourself in that counts. While it seems impossible, taking positive steps towards reaching acceptance is essential, whether that be talking to friends and family about your loss, seeking help from others who have suffered, or perhaps even writing thoughts in a diary.
There is no correct or incorrect way of grieving, but it is often vitally important that you do so in some way. Spending too long in the denial stage could be damaging to your healing process.
It is easy to be engulfed in the emotional aspects of losing a loved one, but the legal proceedings that follow death are an unfortunate necessity. Inheritance of your relative’s estate will depend on their will, or the rules of intestacy if they haven’t made a will.
Much of the time, inheritance will be a relatively straightforward procedure, but when it isn’t, it is important you find a good lawyer to help. If your family member lived abroad, in Spain, for example, this might bring up some complications, but an excellent probate lawyer Spain-based would be able to deal with the procedure across the border, helping with the language barrier too.
Who can help?
There are a number of support organizations, both locally and nationally, to help you with grieving. Talking about your feelings is important, especially in extreme circumstances such as during the loss of a loved one, and whether it is to those close to you or to professionals, it will aid recovery.
As well as grief, there are various other side effects that you might require help with. Loss of sleep, loneliness, and stress can all come hand in hand with death, so seeking out expert advice on such matters is essential if you are struggling.
Perhaps the most important part of coping with death is to move forward. Do not focus on matters you have no power over, such as situations that have happened in the past and, therefore, cannot change.
Put your energy into the aspects of your life that you can change, such as surrounding yourself with those who love you, cutting down on vices such as cigarettes and alcohol, and setting yourself tiny targets to reach. It will do you no good to instantly expect acceptance and happiness.