HOW DIVORCE AFFECTS CHILDREN
(Oct. 17, 2019) — Divorce is not only hard for the parents but doubly so for children. Learn what its effects are and why you should be concerned.
Maintaining relationships can require a lot from the involved parties. Marriage, most of all, requires both parties to extend patience and understanding to one another and practice consistency in doing so. Among other things, you have to put in extra effort and time to make the relationship work years after the honeymoon phase has waned.
There are times, however, when it might be best for married couples to separate, resulting in a divorce. Divorce is not easy for anyone. It can be tough not only on the spouses but also on their children.
With that in mind, family experts discuss how divorce in Denver, Colorado affects your relationship with your loved ones.
Lost Time with Your Family Members
The spouses will start adjusting to their new role as a divorced parent. Most of the time, the law can order their children, especially minors, to stay with one custodial parent. This might mean that their kids would have to spend less time with the other parent, effectively making them “choose a side.” They might also have to see less of relatives from each other’s side of the family, despite the bond that they have built and cultivated.
Broken Emotional Connections
Divorce can weaken children’s relationship with their parents, especially the one they get to see less of. This can upset the emotional connection they have with this particular parent and result in spending less time with other family members. Some parents, if the divorce is toxic enough, will also talk bad things about their ex-partner with their child, which can plant the seeds of resentment in their mind.
Studies reveal that divorce leaves a traumatic experience to children of divorce, making them lose their sense of family tradition. Their daily routines and habits can be compromised, too. What you can do is to schedule family therapy sessions to help maintain communication lines open despite the strained relationship.
Your Children Can Suffer Academically and Socially
With their young age, children might not be well-equipped when it comes to an understanding and handling the radical change in their family structure. They might not be able to handle the emotional burden well, resulting in faulty coping mechanisms. For one, they might avoid speaking with others and have a lot going on in their minds, taking their focus away from their studies.
Worse, children who encountered divorce early on take this trauma to their adult lives. A study in Norway found that children are divorcees have lower educational outcomes than those who grew up in an intact family. Another study in Iowa also found out that children with divorced parents are also less likely to pursue higher education or to graduate.
Divorce certainly has a significant impact not only on the spouses but also on their family. Before you come to this point, think about ways to save your marriage. For one, you can attend couples counseling sessions that can help you understand your spouse and maintaining your relationship. Otherwise, legal recourse is always available if your peace of mind is on the line.
Sharon Rondeau has operated The Post & Email since April 2010, focusing on the Obama birth certificate investigation and other government corruption news. She has reported prolifically on constitutional violations within Tennessee’s prison and judicial systems.